Communication is key between any married couple. It enriches their life and gives them a chance to grow as a couple and become much closer and happier. However, sometimes, one person or both drift apart, with no apparent reason, they don’t stop talking or seeing each other, they just no longer click. They feel different. This is a common problem between partners. They reach a point where they don’t feel as fulfilled, and small things just start to matter from that point on.
Avoiding such a problem is not an option. It is inevitable, people will always have moments of detachment. The only option is to work on it. You need to understand that there are lots of ways and many things to do to get through it. First, you need to understand the nature of the detachment. Is it because of a fight or a problem you’re facing as a couple? Or is it due to being sucked into the dull routine of life? It could also be a problem your partner is facing within himself, he/she are not happy with who they are at the time, so their minds get cluttered and they lose touch.
Understanding the nature of the problem is the key to solving it. If it is due to a fight then the cause must be worked out. Spouses sometimes tend to avoid certain problems because they believe avoiding it would be easier, but normally it is not. It doesn’t go away, it keeps burning under the surface till it erupts again. You have to face your problems and talk it out. If it is a personal problem then you should offer help, if it is not needed (and you have to accept that sometimes that your is not needed and that doesn’t mean that you are not needed, it is just personal and you can’t do anything about it) then you work on comforting your partner. It is essential to comfort your partner while they are facing troubles on their own. If it is due to the dull routine then a trip or even a date night might solve the whole issue.
The most important thing the partner needs to learn is how to get over such a problem when it happens. It is very annoying to just fall out of touch all of a sudden for no apparent reason, but nagging and fighting about it would never help. It would actually make the distance grow further. You have to keep yourself busy with your own interests. Life doesn’t only revolve around your partner. It helps in times when your partner is not in the mood to be involved in your life as much as they should for you to have things to do on your own. That way you can lay off and give your partner the space they need. It is also important to know when enough is enough. Don’t give your partner the chance to like it away. You have to keep them interested in you and your life in order to give them the chance to bring things together again. It is also very important for you to not give a chance for insecurities to grow. Periods of detachment are a fertile ground for low self-esteem and unfair self-estimation. You should always believe when you are not the reason and not give a chance for negative thoughts about how much you mean to them to crawl through. Also, it is crucial for you to know your own limits. Nobody needs problems while recovering from detachment. It would be a reason for more distance as well. So, whenever you feel that you had enough, find the right way and time to discuss it with your partner. Discussions solve the most persistent problems. Plus, discussion means that both of you care to solve the issue.